Client Case: Anxiety
*Shared with client's permission
Alice came to me which anxiety issues, that started to show up in her daily life.
Alice has a busy multilingual family with two little kids and a husband, plus her international marketing business that she recently started (all on her own), and an MBA degree, which she is currently taking in a foreign language. On top of that, she is moving to another country! (I have to say I work with the most interesting clients!)
I asked Alice whats her self-care was practice like. Is there are any weekly rituals she does for herself? Also, I was curious what's her alone time like..
I work a lot with entrepreneurial mothers, I happened to believe that mothers are the strongest people on this planet. They possess the essential power of the universe - which is a life-creating ability. They know the essence of magic. If you want to change the world work with mothers.
Mothers are the most powerful changemakers and yet most of the time they don't realize their power, give it away, or simply don't claim it. Putting themselves as the last priority.
As women we came here to shine, we are the life creators in all its forms, that power is to be celebrated and held in high reverence, yet we are often the ones who do not claim it.
"I feel background anxiety every day. How do I
reduce it? " Alice came with such a request.
"I am tired of this debilitating condition."
Her permanent anxiety and stress manifested themselves in strong emotions and deep regret. Because of the repeating cycles, she called this "walking in circles."
We did a grounding meditation - to relax her nervous system, followed by a calming creative exercise to work through the issue as we all as find her internal resolution.
We also got acquainted with what lays within her subconscious mind.
Through this Alice grasped what was it that that kept her anxiety high and in prolonged states of high tension.
She was in the midst of a fast house/country move - relocation, with no help, and she had not paid attention to her getting any rest or having space to recover.
We also talked about our nervous system:
Sympathetic - The sympathetic nervous system prepares the body for the “fight or flight” response during any potential danger. "The sympathetic nervous system directs the body's rapid involuntary response to dangerous or stressful situations. A flash flood of hormones boosts the body's alertness and heart rate, sending extra blood to the muscles."
Parasympathetic - The parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for the body's rest and digestion response when the body is relaxed, resting, or feeding. It basically undoes the work of sympathetic division after a stressful situation. The parasympathetic nervous system decreases respiration and heart rate and increases digestion.
The most important thing to know is that when we are stressed (the Sympathetic nervous system is on ) we are in a survival mode from which we are unable to make clear decisions because those functions are only accessible when the Parasympathetic system is on.
So your truly expansive self is in your Parasympathetic nervous system - which you accessed through relaxation. Hence why the importance of daily space - self-care- ritual.
(mind you sympathetic state can be addictive and feel safer as this is what is sometimes more familiar)
In the end, Alice got several self-help tools to help her self-regulate, and also changed her attitude towards her emotions and experiences.
In her own words:
-"I found the keys to quickly neutralize my anxiety. All just in one session with Marina. When I see such results, my heart rejoices and
I feel an even stronger desire to help my own clients!"
This was a 90 min session. What I call an introduction.